a hard truth
A truth that was the easiest to learn?…nobody is perfect..A truth that took me the longest to accept?…not everybody owes you an apology for the things they have done to you…and that is okay.
As a pisces, I am sure you can imagine that I have done my fair share of going a thousand miles for people who I know wouldn’t go over 100 miles for me; and then not only expecting, but then being upset and confused when they didn’t..
The thing is sometimes the people you love hurt you, and they may not care enough or even realize they did..and sometimes those same people know full well that they hurt you, but still choose not to apologize, and that is their prerogative. Yes, it is insanely disappointing when someone has no remorse for hurting you in anyway, but they do not owe you an apology. It is a hard concept to accept, and the good thing is that..you also do not need to continue being associated with them after that. I think it is so important to find a way to heal on your own, without knowing whether or not the person who wronged you feels remorse…you can not rely on people for your healing process, but you do owe it to yourself to heal. I believe the second you understand that nobody owes you an apology is the second you understand that your health is not dependent on anyone else, and you do not need another person’s permission, so to say, or apology to start that healing process.
Sometimes people hurt you, sometimes people don’t care whether or not they hurt you, but that person’s remorse should not be synonymous with your healing process..and this truly does pertain to anything whether yo think it’s big or small..you have to find a way to start your healing process that is not dependent on a completely different person’s feelings…it truly does take a long ass time to understand this, and truly feel it..and that is okay :-)
